Bringing the whole family together is what the holidays are all about. But if you are hosting an aging parent who has mobility issues, cognitive decline, or special dietary needs, the logistics can feel daunting.
You want them to be part of the memories, but you also want to ensure they are safe and comfortable—and that you aren't too stressed to enjoy the turkey.
With a little preparation and a few adjustments, you can create a celebration that is joyful for everyone. Here are four tips for a senior-friendly holiday gathering.
1. Rethink the Schedule
Lengthy evening parties can be exhausting for seniors, especially those with dementia who may experience "sundowning" (increased confusion or agitation in the evening).
- The Fix: Consider shifting the main celebration to a holiday brunch or an early afternoon dinner. This takes advantage of higher energy levels and allows your loved one to get home before fatigue sets in.
2. Create a "Quiet Zone"
The noise of laughing grandchildren, barking dogs, and clinking dishes can be overwhelming for someone with hearing aids or sensory sensitivities.
- The Fix: Designate a quiet bedroom or den as a "retreat space." Make sure there is a comfortable chair and perhaps a photo album to look at. Let your parent know they can take a break there whenever they need to recharge.
3. Safety-Proof the Party
Holiday decor is beautiful, but it can introduce new hazards.
- The Fix: Do a quick scan of your home before guests arrive. Tape down extension cords for tree lights, remove scatter rugs that could cause trips, and ensure the path to the bathroom is wide, clear, and well-lit.
4. Hire a "Hostess Helper" (The Secret Weapon)
This is the tip that changes everything. It is difficult to baste a turkey, refill drinks, and help a parent with mobility issues get to the restroom or cut up their food.
- The Fix: Would your parent benefit from some help at home? A Home Caregiver can provide both personal care and household support for your loved one:
- They can assist your parent with eating, toileting, bathing and medication discreetly and with dignity.
- They provide one-on-one companionship, ensuring your parent is never sitting alone in a corner.
- They can assist with light housekeeping and chores to make the environment safer for your parent.
- The Result: You get to be the daughter or son (and the host), rather than the caregiver, allowing you to actually relax and enjoy the holiday season.
Don’t let the logistics keep you apart. Contact Compassion Network Home Care to learn how our Caregivers can support your family in Calgary and Edmonton this season.
